Comments on: Are Fear and Pain Making Your World Smaller and Smaller? http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html Tools and Inspiration for Personal Growth, to find and live the greatness within you. Personal Development is more than courage or comfort or success. It's about possibility and freedom. Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:03:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Leanne Lonergan http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3849 Leanne Lonergan Sun, 06 Apr 2008 06:17:29 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3849 Wonderful post Joel. I will come back to it and read it a few times as I am sure that there will be something new in it each time! (plus all these wonderful comments as well) Wonderful post Joel. I will come back to it and read it a few times as I am sure that there will be something new in it each time! (plus all these wonderful comments as well)

]]> By: RainforestRobin http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3826 RainforestRobin Thu, 03 Apr 2008 04:29:44 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3826 This is such richly laden post I can hardly decide where to start. I know from experience of both intense physical and emotional pain that to recharge our connection to possibility or to remember that great possibilities exist... it helps to do the small things that change our lives. It doesn't have to be one great big thing. 1.) I learned to be gentle and yet firmly honest with myself. 2.) I learned not to beat up on my self for any type of pain I was experiencing....nor let anyone else beat on me. 3.) I learned to really forgive myself the way I would forgive a small innocent child....and to love myself....all of me even my pained self. 4.) I did not like the pain and did what I could to help myself, but some pains just take time. So I would acknowledge that as best I could. In doing that I felt my own courage. It takes courage to live and we sometimes forget that. Most of us have more courage than we might think. I also made the decision to encompass all of ME, even ME in pain, to embrace my humanity. I realized that my life was still whole, that I was still whole and worthy even in my pain, that being a worthy human being didn't mean I had to be perfect or pain free. 5.) I also do not have a TV, by choice, so I spent that time doing creative things that feed my soul, such as playing the piano, writing, hot baths, gardening, resting when I could. LOTS of time in nature. I think we spend too little or no time at all in nature. Nature is wonderful for soothing emotional pain. It may take a bit for the peace to settle in but if we go each day or as often as we are able into nature, even just SIT under a tree without a book or anything, eventually the body and spirit lets down and lets go and nature starts to seep in and heal. 6.) It also helps to remind ourselves that there is no such thing as the perfect life. If we look around we will always find people who are suffering as much as we are...or worse. This can do 2 things. One we don't feel as alone and two it can give us often needed perspective. You might like my post titled: Munch away LIVERS OF LIFE! at http://nakedineden.com/nakedinedenblog/?p=19 This is such richly laden post I can hardly decide where to start. I know from experience of both intense physical and emotional pain that to recharge our connection to possibility or to remember that great possibilities exist… it helps to do the small things that change our lives. It doesn’t have to be one great big thing. 1.) I learned to be gentle and yet firmly honest with myself. 2.) I learned not to beat up on my self for any type of pain I was experiencing….nor let anyone else beat on me. 3.) I learned to really forgive myself the way I would forgive a small innocent child….and to love myself….all of me even my pained self. 4.) I did not like the pain and did what I could to help myself, but some pains just take time. So I would acknowledge that as best I could. In doing that I felt my own courage. It takes courage to live and we sometimes forget that. Most of us have more courage than we might think. I also made the decision to encompass all of ME, even ME in pain, to embrace my humanity. I realized that my life was still whole, that I was still whole and worthy even in my pain, that being a worthy human being didn’t mean I had to be perfect or pain free. 5.) I also do not have a TV, by choice, so I spent that time doing creative things that feed my soul, such as playing the piano, writing, hot baths, gardening, resting when I could. LOTS of time in nature. I think we spend too little or no time at all in nature. Nature is wonderful for soothing emotional pain. It may take a bit for the peace to settle in but if we go each day or as often as we are able into nature, even just SIT under a tree without a book or anything, eventually the body and spirit lets down and lets go and nature starts to seep in and heal. 6.) It also helps to remind ourselves that there is no such thing as the perfect life. If we look around we will always find people who are suffering as much as we are…or worse. This can do 2 things. One we don’t feel as alone and two it can give us often needed perspective.

You might like my post titled: Munch away LIVERS OF LIFE! at
http://nakedineden.com/nakedinedenblog/?p=19

]]> By: Susan from Thrusites design http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3683 Susan from Thrusites design Mon, 24 Mar 2008 14:28:09 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3683 Jut few days ago I was talking about this with my boyfriend... He asked me why I would like to be a child again. And it is because of the feeling, that you have no problems and that the world is a happy place... As I grew, the world seemed to me more and more sad. At least I feel this way sometimes. And as I am older, I keep loosing my inner balance.... Jut few days ago I was talking about this with my boyfriend… He asked me why I would like to be a child again. And it is because of the feeling, that you have no problems and that the world is a happy place… As I grew, the world seemed to me more and more sad. At least I feel this way sometimes. And as I am older, I keep loosing my inner balance….

]]> By: happy http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3628 happy Fri, 21 Mar 2008 12:15:37 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3628 a great post, indeed. glad i found your site. a great post, indeed. glad i found your site.

]]> By: Nicola Francis http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3608 Nicola Francis Thu, 20 Mar 2008 13:14:52 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3608 Another fantastic post Joel. Many thanks. You ad important content to the internet with your blog. Personal development has put me in line with the law of attraction and Intention which has created Abundance in my life and totally changed my life around for the better. Another fantastic post Joel. Many thanks. You ad important content to the internet with your blog. Personal development has put me in line with the law of attraction and Intention which has created Abundance in my life and totally changed my life around for the better.

]]> By: Liara Covert http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3585 Liara Covert Wed, 19 Mar 2008 08:04:55 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3585 No matter what you're age, you can remind yourself your life is full of infinite possibilities. No matter what you’re age, you can remind yourself your life is full of infinite possibilities.

]]> By: Sara http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3579 Sara Tue, 18 Mar 2008 23:31:08 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3579 I have been searching and searching for answers, understanding and this article really was a postive way to move on even to look at yourself in to the mirror. I'am 31 years old and my whole life I have been emotional abused. I don't want to go and complain in this blog. I tell you what I'am 31 and I should not be stalked by my mom. the one who abused me my whole life and acts like nothing happens. Everyone is soooo different on how they heal. I just am trapped with my hurts. Been pushed to the limit by her so so many times. My father died of cancer 2 years ago. and my 2 sisters run and 2 face me al the times. Childish stuff. He was my father and not my sisters but we never thought like that. He was always riding my mothers case about what she would do to me. I have alot of learning still to do basically how to move on. This is sooo hard. I don't know where to turn but the internet reading articles like this I loved it, it made sense. but I still hurt inside? I have been searching and searching for answers, understanding and this article really was a postive way to move on even to look at yourself in to the mirror. I’am 31 years old and my whole life I have been emotional abused. I don’t want to go and complain in this blog. I tell you what I’am 31 and I should not be stalked by my mom. the one who abused me my whole life and acts like nothing happens. Everyone is soooo different on how they heal. I just am trapped with my hurts. Been pushed to the limit by her so so many times. My father died of cancer 2 years ago. and my 2 sisters run and 2 face me al the times. Childish stuff. He was my father and not my sisters but we never thought like that. He was always riding my mothers case about what she would do to me. I have alot of learning still to do basically how to move on. This is sooo hard. I don’t know where to turn but the internet reading articles like this I loved it, it made sense. but I still hurt inside?

]]> By: Rowell http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3572 Rowell Tue, 18 Mar 2008 06:59:11 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3572 powerful article as always :) A good practice too would be to look in front of the mirror everyday for the next 30 days, point your finger to the reflection you see right in front of you and say these words: "Nothing can stop you from achieving your destiny...You will not be denied" powerful article as always :)

A good practice too would be to look in front of the mirror everyday for the next 30 days, point your finger to the reflection you see right in front of you and say these words:
“Nothing can stop you from achieving your destiny…You will not be denied”

]]> By: jWells - Advanced Life Skills http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html/comment-page-1#comment-3569 jWells - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 18 Mar 2008 00:10:14 +0000 http://fearlessdreams.com/blog/are-fear-and-pain-making-your-world-smaller-and-smaller_99.html#comment-3569 Fear and pain do indeed shrink a person’s world. In fact, anything that causes us to narrow our focus to ‘self’ contracts our space and awareness. Personal development, contrary to what some may think, expands our world because we are in a better position to contribute to others. Nice post Joel Fear and pain do indeed shrink a person’s world. In fact, anything that causes us to narrow our focus to ‘self’ contracts our space and awareness.

Personal development, contrary to what some may think, expands our world because we are in a better position to contribute to others.

Nice post Joel

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