My financial life has been in a downward spiral for some years to where I am saving up to file for bankruptcy. The admonitions and prescriptions from all the books and audio CD’s were cold comfort. Their assertions are quite unsupported and have been contradicted by my own daily experience. Perhaps I did not understand and perhaps they made things worse by offering false hope. It’s like these authors don’t live in the same world as mine. Interesting to notice how silly I sound when I tried to repeat these nostrums to someone else. Good intentions aside, how many writers have ever done a survey to test what percentage of people actually have success using their recommendations.

Well, I have put aside the books. and have hired an excellent professional life coach who takes time to listen to me before proposing anything. I am seeking my own path, and now reject anything which insults my soul. I deeply appreciate the observations of others who are doing the same. It is reassuring to know I am not not alone.

Richard Kovell / Tucson Arizona.

I’ve been into the self-help books since I was 20, today I am 34 and I’ve read 200 (or more) books of this kind (including almost all books from “the law of attraction”), so after so many years reading so much rubbish my mind was very confused and my life too. On the financial realm, I got a enourmous debt, on the professional realm, I got only stress and more stress and a unhappy job, the more I “tryed” to use the secret and others “tools” (like Dyer Japa meditation to manifestation…) the more my life sunk.

I made everything (mantras, tools) they say, and believe me, nothing happened, no wait, my financial situation actually got worse!!!

One day, in deep depression I collapsed, and I did what I should have done 10 years ago, going to a psychologist, a real professional about our mind health.

Only when I started to visit a “real” psychologist, my life startet to turn to a “real” good life, a better work, making theaters clases to learn how the be an actor (what a always wanted since I was 16, but never had the courage to do it), and so on. Today I can say I have a happy life, because, and I quote, I live in the “real” world right now, I am working hard to change my financial situation, and I know it will take a long time to fix the mess I made following so many self-”help” books.

Do you know what the secret really is? And nobody from the self-help business want you to know??????

YOU DON’T NEED THEIR BOOKS TO HAVE A HAPPY LIFE!!!

If you are confused about your life, or you don’t know what path follow to have a better life as I was so many years ago, instead of reading this “be happy now” books, go to a psychologist, or to a certified life-coach, and you will see that after fixing the mess you have in your head, your life will be “the mirror” that will reflect a better life for you, in the “real” world.

The only self-help books I found very useful after all this years of research, are from Dr. Martin Seligman, Dr. David Burns and Tony Robbins, they talk about the real life but even their books won’t replace any therapist.

This kinds of books are like the tv comercials that say “lose weight fast and get a body like this in 10 days!”, are you really sure you want to put your mental health (this books cause depression in the long term) in risk and spend your time trying this? It’s very attractive to the people that feels lost, but thanks to God there are people that “really” know how to help others.

You could ask me, do you have a explanation for the people that get “lucky” and win the lottery for example? No, I don’t have it, and honestly, I don’t think any of us could “really” know about it, but the real question is: from the people that have a happy life, 90% worked hard to get it (to have a healhy body, financial stability, loving relationship…), and 10% got “lucky” (won the lottery, etc…), so if you were in a cassino betting your life, in which place you would bet? Why try the path of the few winners??? Why don’t try the path of the people that with patience and endurance works for a better life for them and for others around them?

If you accept that you can’t control everything in your life, so there is no need anymore for the law of attraction, the law of attraction is so popular, because it gave us a ilusion of “total control”, who doesn’t want to be a harry potter of your life???

We live in an uncertain world folks, and we as humans try to create “certainty” making our world more secure (the seat belts on the cars for example…) but even so, we can’t garantee a 100% sucess in everything we try, but… wait, suddenly someone in a dvd says “the victory is 100% garantee”.

It’s like the tv comercials… To the Secret DVD be perfect there is only one thing missing “buy now the secret dvd, and if you don’t like we give your money back!!! It’s 100% garantee!!!” he he

Folks, if they had said the true, that we don’t want to hear, do you think that anyone would buy this book and dvd??? no one, because we are so childish and we are still waiting for someone to say “hey, don’t worry, santa claus really exists!!!”

So, if there is a fatal flaw (there is many) in this LOA thing, why insist on it? Do we really need this to have personal grown in our life? Would do more good than bad?

My answer is no, we don’t need this rubbish that only creates childish narcisism and provokes depression on people (what do you think that the though “everything bad its my fault” do at long term?) to have personal growth.

I would like recommend to you, reading the book “The Secret of The Secret” from Karen Kelly, and you will be amazed by the numbers of flaw in this theory.

Work for your dreams, go for it, the victory is not garatee, neither the failure! More important that win or lose its the Atitude of going after the things you want, dream your dreams and fight for them, and no be foolish, ask for help! There a lot of certified life-coaches, therapists that “really” could help us!

Be happy!
God bless you all!
Charles

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I believe it’s important to remember that, while the law of attraction works, it’s only one of the laws that we live with. There’s inertia (that one trips up a lot of efforts), action/reaction (also called ‘karma’) and a whole raft of others. For any law, LOA included, to work perfectly would mean removing the influence of every other possible factor. Welcome to the real world, folks. Nothing is ever guaranteed, nothing works 100%, no matter what the headlines promised you. Does it mean LOA doesn’t work? Absolutely not - any more than gravity is wrong because helium balloons go up.

Tracy makes a good point, and I’ve heard it said elsewhere. The law of attraction ends with the word “action”. That’s the bit most people like to ignore ;) Even so, I don’t think you need to read ALL the books etc to get it to work! I’ve had a fair bit of success with it even with quite a few still sitting on my reading list…

Crystal

You also perceive things differently. It’s amazing how big a change that is. Just a shift in mindset and it’s a whole new world.

I’m not there all the time or even most of the time, but I have been there at times and I’m working on it.

Thanks.