Choices 1

  1. Prepare in advance for life’s choices by exploring what’s most important to you, and setting some broad goals that move you in the right direction. You don’t have to plan every little detail, but you want to get clear what’s really important to you, what gets you excited, and some key area of your life that you’d like to develop.
  2. When you’re in a situation where you have to choose:
    • Remind yourself what’s important to you, and where you’re going. Ask yourself: “Which choices will get me closer to my passions, dreams, and goals, and which will leave me going nowhere?”
    • If the choice doesn’t seem relevant to your goals at all, and it’s not exhausting your time, energy, or money that you need for other things, quickly make a choice. Tell yourself that this choice doesn’t matter much. Train yourself to just make a quick choice in these situations.
    • After your quick choice, your thoughts will circle around your choice. You’ll keep wondering for a while if you made the best choice. You’ll start accusing yourself of being an idiot, or of being reckless.
    • When your thoughts and feeling start running around in a useless circle like this, use one of the “circle breaker” exercises that I’ve suggested to weaken this circle. (See the inner exercise: Circle 1)
    • Remind yourself of what’s important to you in your life. Review some of your most passionate goals and fill yourself with some of the wonderful feelings that accompany those goals.
  3. Review your choices every couple of days, to remind yourself which choices led you toward your goals and made you stronger, and which choices took you nowhere and made you weaker.