Why Do Relationships Wither and Die?


The Incredible, Shrinking Relationship Relationships shrink.

They get smaller and smaller until there’s no room to breathe. Then, you must break out, or go crazy.

Have you ever felt like that? If you can get past the pain and frustration and sadness, ask yourself how something rich and alive fell […]

Seven Ways That Choice Makes Your Life Hell, Part 2

Very few things in this world are one-sided, all good or all bad. In Part 1 of this series I introduced the idea that the extraordinary human power of choice can lead us into our own personal hell.

Barry Schwartz has written an insightful book on the dark side of choice, called The Paradox of […]

Seven Ways That Choice Makes Your Life Hell

Do you think that having more choices is good for you?

Choice is critical to the feeling and practice of freedom. Without choice, you would be doing exactly what you’re told to do, every moment of the day.

You’d be following your programming like a machine with no soul.

A kind of pretend choice is […]

The Internet — Life, or Just a Game?

Leading a Double Life Imagine that there is a door in your apartment or house.

Each day you step through that door and visit a distant and strange world for a few hours. In that world you have a different name and face and body. You live, work, earn money, face challenges, create, succeed, and […]

Are Fear and Pain Making Your World Smaller and Smaller?

Trapped In A World of Pain

Do you remember as a child, when the world seemed endless, and every stone was full of possibility? And whatever we knew of the world, was only a beginning — a glimpse of endless knowledge that we could only dream of.

What happened to that world? It seems so […]